It’s time to hear from another amazing mom! Melissa Mancia is the creator of thehomemadelife.com where she shares her journey of motherhood, faith, and creative living.
After meeting her and realizing we have quite a bit in common, (not to mention we both live in the great state of Oregon) we decided to do a little cooperative content swap, where she shares one of my posts and I get to share one of hers.
I loved this article she wrote on marriage and decided this would be a nice fit. I write a lot about being a mom and my journey of motherhood, but marriage is very much a large part of creating a happy home, as well.
I hope you enjoy! <3
Christian marriage Tips
By Melissa Mancia
Deep down we all long for that fairy tale relationship, one that ends like Cinderella. Why wouldn’t we? We have been groomed since school age to view relationships in a “Happily ever after” kind of way.
Then we grow up and start dating, or perhaps get married, and quickly realize the fairy tale is anything but real. We soon find out what is blissful in the beginning , turns a little sour. Leaving our hearts hurting, bruised, and quite confused.
I am always one to focus on the positive, but today I must simply be honest. The truth is, the fairy tale love story is a minority not majority, and here’s why.
We live in a broken world, full of broken people that come from broken homes.
Knowing this we cannot expect our relationships and marriages to be perfect. In fact, more often than not they are very imperfect.
I’m not a relationship expert, and have done marriage the wrong way for many years. It’s been far from perfect. At times, it’s been really ugly. There have been moments of deep hurt, moments that without commitment and God’s grace we might not have made it.
However, over the past twelve years, God has shown me five things to implement in my marriage, and today I am grateful to share these christian marriage tips with you!
- Pray for your husband/partner– There is power in prayer. God has the ability to change hearts, open eyes, and heal wounds that cause us to hurt our spouse.
- Turn the other cheek– It’s so easy to retaliate when hurtful words are being said, but when we choose not to participate we are setting an example.
- Be a servant to your husband/partner- Just as Christ puts us first, we too, can show our husbands that same graciousness.
- Validate your husband/partner– never disrespect your husband around others, or talk poorly about him, even if his behavior was poor. Instead speak to others what you want him to be. (I’m not saying you can’t share personal things with close friends or get advice; rather, don’t get in the habit of talking bad about your husband).
- Lastly, Pray for yourself- ask God to open your eyes to the changes that you need to make in order for you relationship to be healthier. Ask Him to change your heart too!
Everything that I have encouraged you to do, I have done wrong many times, and can attest to the fact that it only breeds more dissension, pain, and resentments.
Marriage is always a work in progress. It requires effort, intentionality, selflessness; but mostly prayer, and putting God first.
My husband and I have both had moments when we seriously questioned quitting, throwing in the towel. I’m thankful we didn’t. God can turn ugly things into beautiful things. Had we given up on one another, we would have lost our life partner, and best friend. With God the fairy tale does exist!